Website design By BotEap.comThe best answer I can give to ‘Why do boyfriends abuse their girlfriends?’ is: because they don’t know any better. If she has been or is being verbally, emotionally and physically abused by her boyfriend, here is what she needs to know to change her situation now…

Website design By BotEap.comAll the reasons why boyfriends abuse their girlfriends point to the same conclusion. Boyfriends abuse their girlfriends verbally, emotionally, or physically, because they are unaware that their behavior is hurting someone. If they have a conscience, they just don’t care enough about their girlfriends to stop hurting them. This is not normal. My experience is that most men are extremely decent, loving and caring people, who have strong desires to protect and love the people they care about, especially the women in their life.

Website design By BotEap.comIf you find yourself in a relationship where your boyfriend abuses you, I recommend that you give yourself the opportunity to expand your social circle and meet men from different walks of life. To do this, spend time in a completely different place. Go somewhere NICE you’ve never been before. Dress as neatly as you can and watch how other men behave towards the women they are with. Do your own experiment by observing at least 10 different men. Keep a notebook and record your observations about the way they dress and behave, especially around women or their girlfriends. If a man comes and talks to you, smile demurely and let him do the talking. If he abuses you in any way or makes you feel uncomfortable, walk away from him. There is no need to retaliate and abuse him. Just walk away or yell for help. Do something different.

Website design By BotEap.comIn life, it’s so important that we don’t keep doing the same thing expecting a different result. Think about it: if you want to color a sun yellow, but you keep using the same red crayon over and over again, how are you going to achieve the result you want? The only chance you have to color your Sun yellow is to use a different crayon, even if you don’t know what other crayons you have yet. Yes, you may end up with a lot of different colored suns on your paper, but at least you used all the crayons you had, instead of being left with something that has already proven inadequate for your needs.

Website design By BotEap.comSo what I’m saying is, if you want a boyfriend who treats you with care, consideration, and affection, choose a different boyfriend. Don’t stay with a boyfriend who has already proven incapable of consistently behaving with decency and verbal, physical, and emotional caring. Men don’t really change that much. And it’s not your job to wait and see if a guy ever changes. It’s your job to take good care of yourself. Once your abusive boyfriend has already shown you that he is a “red crayon”, he is not what you are looking for. He summons all the courage and self-love that he can and instead begins a new and better journey. Ask other people for their help and support. Give yourself the gift of opening yourself up to better possibilities. Learn from your mistakes so that you can choose your boyfriend more carefully and wisely in the future.