Website design By BotEap.comI had no desire to be part of a clique as a child. Fortunately, my natural orientation is to be a bit of a loner.

Website design By BotEap.comFast-forward several decades, I am now using a number of new and different forms of interaction and communication techniques, one of which is Facebook. I wasn’t very interested in using it. But social media gurus have been saying in recent years that you should incorporate it into your search engine optimization (SEO) strategy for your business. “Google is changing its search engine SERP algorithm to reward you for the number of likes and comments you get on pages and posts.” Well then. And there it began, making my thoughts and feelings available to many acquaintances and a small handful of very close friends and loved ones. The latter are very sweet. If they log into Facebook and come across something of mine, they always like it and make some kind of comment.

Website design By BotEap.comLast weekend, I said something to my dear little brother while talking to him on the phone. It was that I feel a bit hurt and sad because hardly any of my Facebook “friends” like or comment on anything I post. Now, we’re not talking about a photo I took of a noodle on a fork! It could be a new food recipe I developed, an e-book I just published, a controversial opinion on some political issue, or even something light-hearted like a beautiful sunset I captured in a photograph at the end of the day we had the Blizzard. of 2013.

Website design By BotEap.comMichael helped me see that it absolutely doesn’t matter in the scheme of things! It doesn’t change my inherent value or anyone else’s. It was at that moment that I realized that he expected and wanted public acceptance and support for me and my work. Not only is it unnecessary, it creates a trap for you. You end up worrying about his reaction. Will they pay attention to me or will they ignore me? Will I be accepted or rejected and/or what do I have to say? This is not so different from seeking acceptance from a clique. It is not the healthiest and most useful goal you can have. What’s also interesting is that I figured this out pretty quickly and on my own at the age of 12. And it took me a long time to figure it out, and only with the help of my brother, several decades later.

Website design By BotEap.comI’m not trying to say that all Facebook activity is about clicks. I know that Facebook can be used for many good things. Getting support for important issues and collaborating to solve a problem or achieve a common goal are some examples of this. I think it all boils down to realizing that any interaction or means of communication can be potentially upsetting. Simply being aware of this and keeping an eye on it can help you nip it in the bud.