Website design By BotEap.comThere is a busy and congested road in front of my house. I use this road sometimes driving my car and sometimes walking on foot. Every time I’m driving my car and I’m in a hurry (which is mostly the case), I think, “Why are so many people walking on this road? He comes in front of my car all of a sudden, I batter him with the best of my learned vocabulary.” This abuse is mostly silent in my mind, that only I can hear, but sometimes, it comes out loud and clear.

Website design By BotEap.comBut every time I walk the same path, my stream of thoughts flows in the opposite direction. “Why do these people who drive vehicles have no patience at all? What’s the rush? Is the world going to end?” when a vehicle touches me or another pedestrian, the abuses in the mind begin to unleash.

Website design By BotEap.comLifer is like that too. Our views change based on our role/affiliation, which can change at any time. Sometimes we are with the government and sometimes with the opposition. Sometimes we are customers and sometimes we sell our ideas/products. Sometimes we are employees and sometimes bosses. Sometimes we are parents and other times we become children. Whatever role we play, we tend to prove the other party wrong with our logic, so that our position seems “correct.” But is it mandatory?

Website design By BotEap.comA bias towards the role we are playing at a particular time is natural. But getting attached to it and becoming too partial becomes a hindrance in the flow of life. ‘Positional bias towards one’s position/role in society’ is a sin that is committed unknowingly most of the time.

Website design By BotEap.comYou may ask, “why should I care about that at all?” Whenever you are the decision maker and your decisions affect others, this aspect becomes important and you should pay attention to it. If you are the CEO or in senior management, you have the luxury of requesting a presentation from your staff and therefore receive all input before making a balanced decision/policy making. But ordinary people don’t have this luxury and often fall prey to this self-bias syndrome. The time to make too many decisions in daily life and the availability of all the inputs is limited for an ordinary person like you and me (someone like me who has written this article and someone like you who is reading it).

Website design By BotEap.comTaking an unbiased view on critical/important ‘decision-making’ is the key to a happy life, not now, but in the future as well. This skill set is not very difficult to develop and there are many meditation techniques available for this.

Website design By BotEap.comTo get rid of this limitation, such a practice is suggested here. Just get some uninterrupted time/place, come to a relaxed position, and become a witness to your thought process. May these come, go and pass. Do not categorize into good or bad. The hectic movement of thoughts will stabilize and eventually lead to an ’empty situation’ if we do this ritual. This can be done daily for a few minutes initially. Repeated practice will help develop a balanced attitude. When we witness ourselves acting out the drama of life with an impartial attitude, we don’t have to prove others wrong to prove ourselves right. Decisions made with this attitude are a perfect mix of logic and feelings and also according to our taste and comfort level.