Website design By BotEap.comResistance has been on my mind: that feeling of pushing, fighting, facing off against some person, place, or thing. It’s the feeling that even though I’m doing everything I can to get what I want where I want, things are getting in my way and I can’t proceed smoothly or quickly.

Website design By BotEap.comSigmund Freud, the father of modern psychology, described resistance as an internal posture that protects memories, so that we create a psychic armor that prevents us from turning on a light, facing and watching resistance crumble.

Website design By BotEap.comWhen we are swimming and come across a strong current, we panic and try to swim against it back to shore. WRONG. We exhaust our strength and lose energy if we face the current head-on. We’re supposed to swim through it and get out of its way – it does its thing and we do our thing.

Website design By BotEap.comMaybe we live or work with people who drive us crazy in many ways, which means we are in resistance. We wish they were different and believe our stories about them and how they are affecting our lives. It could be your children, spouse or co-workers or a stranger and doesn’t it always seem like the more irritated and critical we get, the more stubborn they get?

Website design By BotEap.comEverything we resist persists. Anything we focus on expands, and when we resist, fight, and complain, we focus on what gets in our way and upsets us. Our focus fuels resistance to match our own determination to overcome it. Pretty exhausting! We all do versions of the Sisyphus myth every day, expending a lot of energy in the process.

Website design By BotEap.comI am in favor of doing things differently. I’m tired of pushing, judging, feeling self-righteous and like a victim fighting against the tide to get to the shore or the city or just a peaceful place in my heart.

Website design By BotEap.comSo… I’ve started to tell a new story about resistance. I LOVE THE RESISTANCE and I am proclaiming it to the universe. I am grateful every day for the tug of war that is established in such a rhythmic and musical way. Resistance is my ultimate favorite dance, and as a longtime dancer, I welcome the twists and turns, the pushes and the pushbacks. I love finding and relaxing in exactly the right dance “frame” and moving gracefully. I love coming from a place where leading and being led are part of the same package.

Website design By BotEap.comWhen I think about resistance in this way I start to smile and amuse myself. I become a superhero (Lady Wonder) and jump over the resistance, trick it, allow it to turn me around and even catapult me ​​in the direction I’m going. I can walk by – singing the song. I affirm that there is plenty of room for all kinds of energies to coexist in love and support.

Website design By BotEap.comWhen I run into someone and I’m about to headbutt, I’ll either compliment their tie or shoe pattern and melt resistance for a moment, or spin around and know we really are whirling dervish energy. Either I get passionate and do a tango or I say, “then alligator, my dance card is full.”

Website design By BotEap.comCreating a new story about resistance is doing me good. Maybe we just create resistance as an excuse to stay safe and stuck. What if the resistance does not exist? What if what we call resistance and place outside of ourselves was really drag, meaning all the baggage we carry behind us all the time, dragging us behind us, holding us back and slowing us down? What if the resistance is just a projection of our inner drag onto the outside world?

Website design By BotEap.comImagine: if we get rid of the idea that there is something OUTSIDE that prevents us from doing something, then what is the problem? Could it be us? Can we be the resistance? If we are, we’re in luck. We can change our thoughts and the way we see things, and then the world changes.

Website design By BotEap.comJust for today I’m going to try this new way of looking at resistance. The next time I feel like I’m pushing myself against someone, place, or thing, I’ll stop, take a breath, and say “DO YOU WANT TO DANCE?”