Website design By BotEap.comAs a tantra teacher, I often refer to tantric sex and tantra orgasm as “the little death”. This may seem paradoxical, since sex is basically a life-generating activity. However, in tantra, sex is the penultimate release of bliss. In a tantra orgasm, you completely vanish for a moment. This moment can be short or long, depending on how far your tantra teacher has taken you in his instructions.

Website design By BotEap.comDuring a tantric orgasm, the essential ‘you’ disappears from existence. You lose all sense of self, all your worries and fears disappear, and all that matters is that heavenly moment you share with your intimate partner. Both join the cosmic pool of existence, where identity is meaningless and all that matters is the All. You become part of the Whole. Blissfully, joyfully, they transcend all that is basically human and prove their true divine natures.

Website design By BotEap.comSuch an orgasm is pure energy, so the ego does not play any role in it. You are not meant to control this moment. Many times in my tantra sessions for couples I have been faced with the misconception that tantra orgasm is all about orgasmic control. These people have no idea what they are talking about. In tantric sex, the climax is pure chaos: it’s not about ‘control’.

Website design By BotEap.comYour mind shuts down and your spirit takes over, so how can you control anything? There is no time context, no agenda. You completely abandon yourself and allow the cosmic forces that formed you to have full reign.

Website design By BotEap.comIn the tantra orgasm, you and your partner become one. You are no longer two separate beings with separate identities and individual aspirations for the sexual act. You are aware at this time, but blissfully unaware of yourself as an individual. All limits are crossed, all limitations are exceeded, and every defensive wall crumbles. You and your partner become infinite.

Website design By BotEap.comIn tantra, climax control is not a conscious effort to prolong the moment of ecstasy. The physical climax may be brief, but the deep joy of oneness with your partner, the oblivion you have achieved, can last for hours. This is a spiritual orgasm, a state you never want to get out of (but you will eventually). Your tantra teacher can instruct you to achieve this state and stay there to experience this joy of complete oneness with your partner.

Website design By BotEap.comRemember that tantric sex is very different from normal intercourse. The whole process is one of mutual adoration and affection. You are not quenching a thirst or satisfying a hunger. You are not satisfying a need. Rather, you are immersing yourself in a deeply cosmic experience. It is an act of meditation and worship in which the concepts of time, ego and need have no place.

Website design By BotEap.comNormal sex is often combative: a clash of individual agendas for selfish satisfaction. In tantric sex, you and your partner merge and become one. You have only one objective: to offer love, pleasure and adoration to the other.